Patrick is 32 and his partner James is 28. Their journey to parenthood commenced in 2017 and they matched and started trying to conceive with an independently sourced surrogate in early 2018. Their extra-ordinary journey was an anxiety and dread-ridden process, involving dishonesty, break-downs in communication, child maintenance claims and extortion from not one but two consecutive UK surrogates. Their son was born in July 2019, but seven months of harrowing court hearings followed, as they spent tens of thousands in legal fees fighting for custody. Patrick will share their learnings from the process and discuss what needs to change in UK surrogacy law to prevent such nightmares for future parents.